Rule 4: Compare Yourself To Who You Were Yesterday, Not To Who Someone Else Is Today.

12 Rules For Life Book Summary (Jordan B. Peterson)

“No matter how good you are at something, or how you rank your accomplishments, there is someone out there who makes you look incompetent. You’re a good cook, but there are many good chefs. Some Mafia don has a tackier yacht than you. Some obsessive CEO has a more complicated self-winding watch.”

Nihilism in one image.
What comparing yourself to the unfavourable domain looks like.

“What are the standards you want to live by?”

“How do you need to be spoken to?”

“What are you putting up with, or pretending to like, from duty or obligation?”

“Consult your resentment.”

The Point of Our Eyes (Or, Take Stock)

“What would your life look like, if it were better? What would Life Itself look like? What does ‘better’ even mean?” You must attempt to define this for yourself. “You don’t know.” Most don’t. “And it doesn’t matter what you don’t know, exactly, right away, because you will start to slowly see what is ‘better,’ once you have truly decided to want it,” remember, what you aim at is what you see.

It’s “not theology. It’s not mysticism. It’s empirical knowledge. There’s nothing magical here. If we start aiming at something, at something different, something like ‘I want my life to be better, our minds will start presenting us with new information, derived from the previously hidden world, to aid us in that pursuit. Then we can put that information to use and move, and act, and observe, and improve.”

Act — Observe — Improve.

“Act” is the operative word. You must take purposeful direct action.

1. “Imagine that you come to notice, and contemplate, and reconsider your unhappiness.”

2. “You crack open one eye, for a moment, and look.

3. “Instead of cursing the darkness, you let in a little light.”

4. “Realise that it’s a mistake to aim for a better life, if it comes at the cost of worsening someone else’s.”

5. “Your life indeed improves. You start to think, further, Better?”

The profundity of this statement demonstrates to me why Dr. Jordan Peterson is one of the most profound and important of our time.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

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