Dear Alexander #004: Achievement vs. Fulfillment: Tony Robbins

“Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure in life. The worse advice you can get is ‘go achieve all your goals’. Most people do that and they go, ‘is this all there is’? … what you have to find out is what’s going to fulfill you.”

Robin Williams was a ‘master of achievement’…

How do you explain that?

“I’ll tell you how you explain that. The worst advice a person ever got that achievement was more important than fulfillment. It’s the biggest fucking lie on the planet. And if you get it, if you wake up to it, you can actually have a life that is so rich and so beautiful. But the only way you can do it is you gotta understand this brain inside our heads is a 2 million year old brain. This 2 million year old brain was not designed to make you happy, it was designed to make you survive. Whenever you’re suffering that survival software is there, and the reason you are suffering is because you’re focused on yourself — you’re obsessing on yourself.” — Tony Robbins

There’s a reason you got chills the first time you heard Tony Robbins echo this story. You realized he’s right. You realized a part of you is chasing achievement. If you become inattentive and lazy through the journey and achievement of your successes you have the potential to go down an empty shallow path that leaves your pockets deep, but your heart and soul empty. To attempt to mitigate that suffering here are 3 thought patterns to be conscious of.

Suffering comes from 3 thought patterns:


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