Dear Alexander #24: Envy & Jealousy

Envy: a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.

Jealous: feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages.

You’re used to fighting against the feeling of envy and jealousy. It often leaves a bitter unpleasant taste in your minds tongue when it takes over your senses. Interacting with your envy and jealousy usually results in disdain and guilt.

Now you realise you must confront it and make peace with your envy and jealousy. How?

• Make a list of people you’re envious about.
• Figure out what type of people are you envious of (what are the commonalities they share)?
• What is it about them that you envy? AKA What is it you think they have that you are envious of?

You soon realise that envy and jealously merely reveal the virtues and qualities you admire in other people that you have not yet made a part of you.

“In your envy lurks the beginnings of a structure of ambition. You wouldn’t be envious of something if you didn’t believe that that was of value that you should possess.”

“So you lay out your envy and you delve deep into it and find out, well here’s what I want. Because remember your envious because you see other people who…